the world is going nuts..

the more you solve, more confusing it gets..


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Its all about your outlook..HALF EMPTY OR HALF FULL..

All of us are surrounded by people with myriad of emotions, countless expressions and limitless mannerisms..but on the whole, we can distinctively divide them into Euphoric, Elated and Happy or Depressed, Sad or Melancholic..

and this art of being happy/elated or Sad/melancholic does not specifically depend upon presence or absence of any person or object, but most of the times, it depends upon our outlook towards the situation..A person can be happy and another sad in the similar situations and with similar possessions and assets..

some examples i saw in near past about how a persons perspective and way of thinking can alter their state of mind from positive to negative and the other way around..

One of my friend was going on a holiday vacation with his family, somewhere in India..while whole of his family enjoyed the vacations, he was thinking all time about his colleague being on an international spot for his holidays..WHAT A WASTE OF VACATIONS!!!…Holidays are means of getting rid of your routines and enjoy your free time. you can be jealous of your colleague at your daily office routines!!!

one other person i know, got his son admitted to nursery class in a well known school with a good reputation..he liked almost everything about the school but for one, and he shifted his ward to another school at double the distance from their home, due to this..and what was that..He felt that his son was not speaking good English..even he was not sure whether this is the fault of the school or not!!…C’mmon…only a NURSERY KID..The same person had once slapped his son Because He was not willing to go to DANCE class..overall his son had not started mixing with other kids with ease…BUT HEY..SLAPPING, SCOLDING…A NURSERY KID!!….GIVE ME A BREAK..

Some persons have stopped frequenting to Facebook as they felt depressed after using Facebook..they did not feel at ease when t hey saw their friends update about a new car, a new house or a long vacations at exotic places..JEALOUSY AT ITS BEST!!..

these were only a few examples and it was just a tip of iceberg..i know that no body including me is spared by these kind of thoughts, some more and some less…but we can minimise our agony, our depressions and our sorrows if we care about the things which we can change…and that too with a reasonable efforts and practicality..and keep our-self positive about the life!!..

THERE ARE TWO WAYS TO LOOK AT OTHERS…TO THINK OF OTHERS AS POSITIVE(GOOD) UNLESS PROVED OTHERWISE, AND, TO THINK OF OTHERS AS NEGATIVE (BAD, NOT GOOD) UNLESS PROVED OTHERWISE..AND THIS WILL MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE….

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How will i explain it to my daughter?.

Today i remember an old story about how a bad apple turned 10 other good apples bad..at that time, i was told this story by my teachers and parents to tell me that a bad company can transform you to have some bad habits..but now a days when i think to tell this story to my kid, i think hard what i will tell my daughter if she asks me that why 10 good apples could not turn that bad apple good?..why always a good person being turned bad and not vice versa..

Should i tell her that Negativity has always been stronger than positivity?..it takes immense power and self control to be positive all the times, but it takes just a thought to turn you negative after all that hard work..and its so strong that it sucks all positivity around you that you have been trying to contain for so many days.. now a days, with so many distractions all over the place, it has just got messier…

Jealousy is one of the strongest factor of this negativity..an update on the facebook by any of your connection can turn you jealous..” How on this earth can s/he be travelling to these places every other day?..Another car/house?..s/he has some other source of income i tell you…Has s/he  got no other work than to post his morphed photo on the fb daily?. oh, s/he has got so loving husband/wife!! i have never been gifted things like that etc etc.” and what not..(disclaimer: i have posted only the most benign of comments i have heard over the years)…i am not over reacting when i say that i have seen  very rich, successful people going frustrated and ultimately depressed over the success of another person, forgetting that  they have got enough to make others jealous..

i will elaborate on other negative aspects sometime later…now, i am busy thinking how to hide this story from my daughter.. (she is already here with her story book in her hands…God Save me!!! from her questions..)